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I didn\u2019t anticipate what the abandoned baby monkey Punch would do to me when I was scrolling social media on Monday. But I know why I couldn\u2019t look away. I was abandoned by my mother too.<\/p>\n

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On Feb. 5, Ichikawa City Zoo, located about 12 miles from central Tokyo, posted a routine update about a baby macaque in its care. Within hours, it was anything but routine. Clips of Punch, a 7-month-old Japanese macaque, spread across social media, drawing millions of views. The hashtag #HangInTherePunch went worldwide. Lines formed outside the zoo. People contacted the zoo from around the globe, demanding intervention, convinced he was being bullied. The Ikea stuffed orangutan he carried everywhere sold out across multiple regions within days.<\/p>\n

The question worth asking isn\u2019t why a baby monkey is adorable. It\u2019s why so many of us fell apart watching him.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Punch\u2019s mother rejected him shortly after birth, so zookeepers raised him. When they later introduced him to the troop, he was pushed away, swatted and corrected for a social grammar no one taught him. Again and again, he ran back to an orangutan plushie fans nicknamed \u201cOra-mama.\u201d<\/p>\n

What undid me was watching him arrange the toy\u2019s arms around his own small body. He was constructing an embrace where none existed. Punch did not just cling to comfort. He built it.<\/p>\n

My birth mother abandoned me on a stairwell in Hong Kong in 1959. I spent 17 months in an orphanage before a Chinese American immigrant couple adopted me. Parental presence doesn\u2019t guarantee a child\u2019s needs for connection are met. My adoptive mother struggled with severe, untreated mental illness that made warmth difficult and physical affection nearly impossible. I grew up with a deep fear of rejection and a desperate need to belong. I knew other children had something I didn\u2019t. I didn\u2019t have the words for it yet.\u00a0<\/p>\n

That hunger shaped how I moved through the world. Like Punch, I often didn\u2019t know the rules. I joined organizations and workplaces with an intensity that clashed with others \u2014 too much, too fast \u2014 and then met a social recoil I couldn\u2019t explain. The more I feared being left out, the more I acted out of step, helping to manufacture exactly the exclusion I dreaded. It was the cruelest loop: My desperate need drove away the things I craved, closeness and connection.<\/p>\n

\u00a0This is not a niche experience. A\u00a02023 survey\u00a0found that only 38% of Americans describe themselves as securely attached. Those with an anxious attachment style are more than three times as likely to report chronic loneliness. When you understand those numbers, the size of Punch\u2019s audience starts to make sense.<\/p>\n

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A memory surfaced as I watched the clips. I was 10, staying with my parents\u2019 old friends on a family trip. \u201cAuntie,\u201d as I called her, braided my hair \u2014 her hands slow and unhurried, smoothing each strand. I remember beaming under her touch, surprised by how much it moved me. It was a language I hadn\u2019t known I was missing.<\/p>\n

Among primates, grooming is precisely that language \u2014 trust, safety, inclusion made physical. What my auntie\u2019s hands did for me, an older female macaque at the Ichikawa Zoo named Ansing did for Punch. In widely shared clips, she grooms him slowly and deliberately. The meaning needs no translation: I will touch you with care because I care for you. You belong. Punch\u2019s arms \u2014 which had spent months clutching a stuffed toy \u2014 held on to something living. A new hashtag appeared: #PunchHasAMom.<\/p>\n

The collective exhale was palpable. I felt it too.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Punch\u2019s story reaches far beyond those whose mothers rejected them. Many people grow up with a parent who is emotionally absent, withholding or unpredictable. They become adults who look fine from the outside while privately doubting whether they\u2019re truly loved or belong anywhere. I have carried that doubt most of my life. I\u2019ve struggled with depression for decades because of it.<\/p>\n

The zoo reports Punch is deepening bonds within the troop. In a recent video, he appears alongside another young macaque, a friend, and the two groom Ora-mama together. Punch may one day no longer even need his plush toy. That possibility is not about erasing what happened. It\u2019s about what remains possible. Through years of therapy, I learned to comfortably occupy the appropriate amount of space, avoiding timidity\u2019s constraint or desperation\u2019s excess.<\/p>\n

Whether Punch was accepted because he learned the troop\u2019s language, or because some older monkey decided he was worth the effort \u2014 or both \u2014 we can\u2019t know for certain.<\/p>\n

The story was never about just a monkey and his toy. It\u2019s about what happens after rejection: You keep trying, you learn, and sometimes the world surprises you. And sometimes you surprise yourself.<\/p>\n

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